Relationships & The Innanet: Facebook

So...as technology is rapidly expanding and we as people are using computers to breathe, the line between real life and Internet is thinning. Everyone either has a Facebook or knows what it is. On Facebook there is an option in your profile to state your Relationship Status. In the event that you are not Single you can state the person to whom you are dating or are married to (if that person is also a Facebook member). But WHYYYYYYY must it cause so many problems? I actually have the answer to that. ;)

On the Internet you can be whoever you want to be. You can write out how you feel or what you think without someone looking at your facial expression. You can also make it very difficult for people to gauge what you mean with a simple 'lol'. You could be dead serious about calling Gina a fat whore and then tack an 'lmao' at the end so that if Gina sees it, she thinks you're kidding. But it's also a breeding ground for e-flirting. Individuals that are in relationships or married sometimes think it's okay to flirt with someone because, "it's just the Internet". I agree. But (there's always a but) you cross that line when the person with whom your flirting with is just a mile or two away. Especially if this person is extremely accessible to you. If you hang out with the same people or at the same places it's really simple to take that e-flirting to fucking.

All it takes is a couple drinks, some sexual tension, and a whisper in the ear....BAM! You cheated. Now what dumbass? She leaned over and asked you if you meant what you said on Facebook. You say yes. Maybe you were lying, but you don't want to hurt her feelings. (Why the fuck you should care about her feelings is another blog.) Now she's really diggin you. She knows you got a girlfriend but you're giving her oodles of much-needed attention so she doesn't care. And it's obvious that you aren't concerned with your own girlfriends feelings if you'd go so far out of your way to make another broad feel special about herself. Then Facebook has this 'poke' feature - meant to simply capture someone's attention without sending a message and to be playfully annoying. Some people put the wrong context on it and it has become a signal of how much you want to or would poke them in real life.

So America, is Facebook flirting cheating? I think it is. You're giving a woman false hopes of screwing you, being with you or whatever you wanna call it.

And like I always say....if you can't do it in front of your significant other - then it's probably wrong.

Holler.