Am I a Self-Hater?

I don't think I am but oh well. I use derogatory words very loosely out of pure humor. That bothers alot of people. Should I care? I don't but SHOULD I? I call people coons and jigs all the time because it's funny to me. I don't understand for the life of me why folks are so uptight about words. I used to think ni**er was the ugliest word in the English language. Sure it holds a little sting to it because it IS known as being the worst racial slur ever created. Years ago Blacks began using it as a term of endearment, I suppose it was thier way of taking it back from White folks. They would use it descriptively, laughingly, seriously, etc. Maybe they were screaming out to racists that this word could no longer hurt them, it was now THEIR word to use as they pleased and Whites were no longer allowed to use it.

But today as the word is used more often than ever, it's getting some folks uptight. I recently made a few comments on a messageboard about ni**ers shuckin n jivin in reference to the "coonish" dances that they do (ie Harlem Shake, Chickenhead,Chicken Noodle Soup with Soda on the side,footowork etc...). I understand that some of these dance originated inteh Motherland and some of them are apart of my history and culture....but they STILL look ridiculous. It reminds me of minstrel shows and shit when the Negro was used to entertain the White folk. If they get to make fun of us then why can't we make fun of us. I'm not doing anything wrong in my opinion. I love Black people, I love MY people. They are who I am. I'm not a self-hater...I'm just me.

Well Damn I Say....Just Damn.

It's been awhile. I apologize.
So...I'm having a little problem.
A friend of mine has asked the CRAZIEST shit. "Would you have a threesome with my husband and I?" I don't know what to say.

I mean sure threesomes are nice to fantasize about....BUT... I don't think she's understanding what this entails. She's asking me to fuck her husband. Her marriage is already rocky, why make it worse. She accuses him of cheating n shit but then asks her best friend to have sex with her husband. So if I were to say yes then she'll forever be wondering if I'm fucking her husband on a regular basis. Then that'll give her a new reason to accuse him of fuckin someone else.


Apparently he suggested it first. Okay fine. What man doesn't want two women at the same time. But it's never supposed to be your wife/main woman and someone else.Never,never,never. It's a fantasy...that's it that's all. According to her, I was the first person he suggested as a third partner. Big no no on his part. That's just suggesting
that he's wanted to fuck me since high school. Right? Or am I trippin? Threesomes can either strengthen a relationship or tear it down.In their case I think it's going to be the latter. She wants to do it and that's cool. She feels most comfortable with me because we've been friends for so long...but I don't want to ruin her relationship. Dammit.

YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!!!!

An adult is an adult no matter what. I beat other peoples children with no hesitation. And I will continue to do so until they stop tellin their little snot nosed ankle bitin crumbsnatchers to tell other grown ups that they're "not the boss".