Relationships 101...the MEN

Below I've complied my rules for relationships. Relationships and relations are two different things. Relations are purely physical. Sex, intercourse, fuckin, etc. Relations aren't always emotional but you throw the 'ship' on the end of the word and you've got matters of the heart. I don't think men understand that women are emotional creatures. We can tell them that a million times but it doesn't actually register.

Rule #1: Committed relationships are just that...committed. Your woman comes FIRST. If she does EVERYTHING that no one else does for you then she should be you Number 1 priority all the time. You come third and everyone else comes next. Alot of you men will get upset and start talkin about ya momma and ya Grandmomma. Yes, I understand they're VERY special to you but they can't suck ya dick, bear your children or hold you down when shit gets rough. When you've had a rough day and your back is killin you you're not going to turn and say,"Mom can I have a back massage?" Naw nigga. You're going to look at me and I'm going to KNOW your back is hurtin because you're my King...my other half and I'm gonna rub your back until you fall asleep because that's what real women do.

Rule #2: Sharing is caring and if you can't share your life with your woman then you don't deserve her. If you had a bad day and you can't sit down and tell her about it then you ain't a man. If you have a "secret" that's eating at you and you can't confide in her then you ain't a man. If she needs $100 and you have $101 in your pocket, give it to her. You'll get it back tenfold.

Rule #3: Excuses are for children and fools. If you messed up then you messed up. OWN THAT SHIT nigga! Tell her what REALLY happened,apologize,take whatever consequences come with it and move the fuck on. There's no sense in telling a woman bunch of lies or makin a bunch of excuses up just to stay out of the doghouse. It just creates MORE issues than necessary. Be straight up with her and always tell the truth. She'll appreciate it and you'll reap the benefits.

Holler.

Me,Me,Me!!!

Lately I've ben getting a few requests about who I am and what I like,etc...

So I'll take the time out to actually tell you.

Life:

I've been to hell and back and I'll probably take one or two more trips before I actually figure it all out.Please don't question me about what makes me bitter. It'll make me cry.

Love:

I'm madly in love with a wonderful man.No you're not him and no I won't leave him for you.

Personal:

I love the hell outta anyone that can make me laugh. People that are JUST themselves is the best way to get me to like you.I'm only me. What you see is what you get. I don't budge or fake it for ANYONE. I refuse.

Family:

I've got a Mom, a Dad and a bunch of siblings. I come from a huge family (immediate and extended) so refrain from fuckin with me.

Interests:

Reading is my most favoritest thing EVER...being a writer is my first passion....will it happen? I dunno. I'll read anything you put in front of me but I absolutely ADORE Sidney Sheldon,Terry McMillan and E.Lynn Harris. I love politics but I'd never be a politician. I'm a Republican, don't question it. Hoever right now I can't really support the Republicans...they just ain't got their shit together right now. I love music but I'd never be a musician. Give me ALL of it from Mos Def to Beethoven and everything in between. Music is like food for me...Jamiroquai,John Coltrane, Nina Simone,the old Whitney, the old Michael, Beyonce, Corrine Bailey Rae, Musiq, Rich Boy, Nas, Eric Roberson,Raheem DeVaughn,etc etc.....I love taking and being in pictures. But I'd never be a model. I adore clothes and shoes but I'd never design them.


Happy now?

Waiting On The World To Change...

When is enough enough?At what point do I decide that selfish and self-preservation are two very different things? When do I stop pointing fingers at myself and decide that maybe this ISN'T my fault? And what do I do to change that? How do I get from point A to point B in life doing only for myself and not for others? Is it the destiny laid out for me by the Most High to be everyone's doormat? And that when I get to the point when it's no longer tolerable I snap and have everyone lookin at me sideways with the screwface and wondering "what the fuck happened to her?" do I stand up and tell them? Or....do I cower in fear of rejection and disappointment and continue my lifeless,docile,insignificant existence? Really America...is waiting a futile endeavor?Maybe it's time for me to just do me.

Honestly, every single decision I make in life is made with consideration for SOMEONE else. It may only be one person...but I always wonder what so and so will think if I make X decision. Would it affect so and so negatively if I do X? Would it fuck up a plan already set by so and so if I decide to do X? Well America...maybe it's time to make so and so become no and no. If I don't take care of me physically,emotionally,spiritually,financially and otherwise...then who will? No one that's who. They aren't concerned with MY best interests when they make a decision, so why shouldn't I start makin decisions without consulting them?

I think I've made some muthafuckin progress.

G'Yeah!

On another note....
work is hilarious.
Tsk tsk America. Some folks need the alarm clock of life for a little wake up call. I mean don't get me wrong...I like her alot.She's got a lot of positive qualities professionally speaking but some things are just better off left at home.

On yet ANOTHER note....
Judgement is to be placed on the guilty by the Most High when their time comes. It is not to be placed on innocent bystanders and slow-progressing peers by their "friends" just because they were more fortunate. If there's one thing that I know I've done right....it's fairness. I can honestly say I don't judge people based on decisions that they've made in their personal life. I don't know them like I think I do,of this I'm convinced, and I don't know what they've been through. It's not my place/job/position to tell ANYONE what's right or wrong about their life.My job is to support them,pray for them and love them the best way I can. But for some reason I get the feeling I'm writing this for my own self-assurance then for any other reason.

Holler.

Progression With Struggle Brings Bitterness...

I'm not a child anymore. I'm growing into an adult. Everyday is another headache, another tear, another struggle, another reason not to wake up the next day. I never know what to expect from day to day and I'm not really sure where I'm headed right now. I'm jaded, scorned, fed the fuck up and ready to just throw my hands up and run away. But that's what children do isn't it? And I'm supposed to be an adult. I'm supposed to grab every problem and attack it with so much vigor that I overpower it. Right?